Dear Hannah

I found myself reading about your story after I visited this website in search of a little help myself.

The only words of comfort I could offer regarding your parents are that your mothers last words are not a reflection on her love for you. If she was your support system your entire life then that is testament to her devotion to you.

Your father will come to regret the choice he has made. It will be up to you if you chose to forgive him or not.

The guy you were seeing sounds very similar to the type of boy I somehow always end up with. The fact is that you confronted him about his indiscretion. You held up a mirror and he didn’t like what he saw. It was easier for him to drop you than be responsible and have to deal with the fact he was wrong, selfish and unfair. Had you not mentioned it it is likely you would still be caught in this suffocating triangle, unhappy and knowing that he is disrespecting you.

The other girl probably has no idea you exist which is why he has run into her arms, she is the easier option and i guarantee he will be treating her with the same disrespect he has shown you. You should feel sad for them both. It says nothing about you but reflects only the type of person he is, deeply insecure. If I were you I would suspend your social media accounts for a short while, even if it is only a month. By making this decision you will feel free from your habitual and harmful obsession over checking their accounts and it will be the first major step in your path to putting him behind you.

The fact you were promoted show how others value you. Everyone on this forum has commented on how brave you are for reaching out.

Do things that make you happy, cut the junk food and spend a little time each day on yourself. In time it is amazing the positive affect this will have on you.

Nina