Romeo,

I have done a lot of reading on the psychology of relationships so that is why I know how our FOO affects who we are subconsciously attracted to.

Insofar as my last relationship did not work out was because of an issue that was her baggage.  I reminded her of her past husband even though she was conscious of the association, it still bothered her.  She had to financially support her husband and did not want to feel that she had to do the same with me even though I never asked or wanted her to do that with me.

My lesson from that past relationship was that I have probably have healed that anger attraction part of me for it was not an issue with her or us.

I am working on being more in touch with my anger for that is a part of me I don’t recognize that I am experiencing. I have spiritually bypassed (you can look up what spiritual bypassing is) my anger and skipped to acceptance/forgiveness/letting go/compassion.  I found doing that was not healthy or authentic.  Now for whatever emotion, I work on noticing it especially where it shows up in my body, acknowledging it and sitting with it.   I know if I don’t acknowledge or process my anger then I will continue to attract those who mirror my anger.  I believe we attract people who have behaviors and qualities that we need to grow from.  This is the beauty and the bane of close relationships.

Mark