Dear Reeny:

The last sentence in your post above is: “I am starting to wonder if it is just me or if I have been unlucky”-

maybe it is a combination of the two. Sometimes we are unlucky, having no responsibility for a situation we find ourselves in. Most times we have some responsibility, having made some choices that were not effective, didn’t serve us well.

You presented three situations that bruised your heart (from title of your thread): the one year relationship you had, the 18 month former employment situation, and the two month recent relationship.

If you want to pick any one of those next and consider what if any responsibility you have in that situation, choices you made that worked against you, not for you, please do so, and I will reply further.

anita