Hello Anita, I like that you point out well-being. I think that that was what was floating around in my head without me actually being able to pinpoint the word. All of this is not necessarily specifically about a certain person a certain conversation or even boundaries it is more about maintaining my well-being in whatever way I need to and that may be different depending on the day. My recent focus is now maintaining that even in situations that are positive. I have had some progress when dealing with toxic people or toxic conversations, and I know that will be an ongoing journey.  More recently however has been interactions with people that I enjoy, people choose to talk to, friends etc. even though conversations may be happy, or normal I sometimes do sense some guilt and anxiety. I know that  of course that if I am burdened with that throughout my entire life is not going to immediately stop if you’re talking to a person about something fun and simple. However I do want to learn how to remind myself not to feel the need to “over-do” it.  That doing what my energy allows is enough.  what are some ways I can help myself do that? (Your thoughts)