Dear Lily:

Welcome back!

When your former therapist told you in September that she couldn’t help you anymore, she should have suggested who could possibly help you, or where you may look for help, and then end the therapy. That would have been the professional and decent thing to do.

After what she did tell you, that she can no longer help you, you asked her if she wants to end the therapy. Her response was to shrug and tell you that it is up to you. That was not a responsible choice on her part. She stated that she can not help you, and so, it shouldn’t be up to you to continue something that doesn’t help you. It is her responsibility to end something that she believes is not helpful to you.

This leads me to think that she may not have been a competent or a quality therapist.

Would you like to share what was helpful to you, if anything, during therapy with her?

And if you would  like to update me, do you have any contact with that man you shared about two years ago? Also, you living with your parents at this time, are you staying in the same room as before, one where you have no privacy as people walk through it to get elsewhere in the home? What is the state of your privacy and relationships with your parents?

anita