Dear Lily:

Good job with the application, doing a bit at a time and doing what worked before. It may work again.

And then, it is about not doing what didn’t work before. From reading your writings, I don’t think that the problem was that you didn’t try hard enough in therapy. I think that the problem was a therapist who was not able to help you. She may have been unable to help herself.

Better be selective as to a therapist, if you choose to seek a different one, as well as other people in your life, who to have in your life and in what capacity.

It is not you who makes people who they are: you didn’t make your former therapist incapable of helping you and you didn’t make that man disrespectful of you. They were like that before they met you.

So when you meet people, figure out who they are, capable or not, respectful or not before giving them your time, your money and the rest of you.

anita