Hi Martin,

I don’t know how old you are, but at a certain age, a girl (now woman) doesn’t want a relationship to “coast” for very long. She needs the man to show he’s passionately in love with her. Yes, she even needs to hear (with passion) the phrase “I love you”. She doesn’t want the boy who does everything right by a checklist. It isn’t right or wrong. It’s a primal thing. We are all subconsciously looking for a mate to feather our nest with.

Maybe, perhaps, possibly, when she suddenly broke up with you she at least wanted you to chase after her in her innermost secret heart.

That said, you did do the right thing by taking her at her word and not running after her, arguing against why you shouldn’t have broken up.

And only we can give ourselves closure. At least you got an explanation.

Best,

Inky