limbolady,

You said about being talk about relationships is that they are long term and you shouldn’t lead someone one.  Once I realize that I can questions my “shoulds” in life, i.e. to be mindful and question my beliefs that are inculcated by my parents, teachers or society around me.  I find that most of these shoulds do not fit me, that I need not blindly do or follow them.

I can understand that you find it difficult to leave situations that are no longer right for you.  That seems to be common for most of us for inertia is a powerful force.  It first take awareness of it not working for you as well as self-love to care for yourself.  It also takes courage to make the change.

Where are you now with this relationship?

Mark