Hi Birdie816,

I too have had my share of verbal and abusive relationships. It seemed to be a re-occurring pattern. I kept vowing to change..that it wouldn’t happen again..but then again..another relationship with a workaholic, a controlling person, an abuser (verbally and emotionally) a narcissist, someone with unresolved mental health issues. It seems that things did not improve until I faced my own painful childhood trauma and PTSD..from an Alcoholic Mother where I was severely neglected, verbally abused, abandoned over and over, rejected. In other words, I was dating men who were my Mother. My father loved me, but he travelled alot, was a workaholic and emotionally and physically distant, so I got involved with men like my father, because that is all I knew. Did you have any childhood trauma that you know if that would attract you to this type of man? I did go through intense Psychotherapy to deal with unresolved childhood issues and am also involved with emotions Anonymous, a 12 step program that deals with this very issue. They have face to face meetings and phone meetings. It is free. It really works. You can Google it if you would like to find out more information, and they also have a website. I hope you will post again with your thoughts. x