Dear Ash:

You are welcome. About being “drawn to wounded men”- at this point in my learning, I don’t know if there is any other kind of men, or women, the un-wounded kind. Probably are, I just don’t know any, personally.

You wrote that you took it upon yourself, as a child, to protect your mother from your father’s angry episodes. I wonder how you attempted that at the time, if you succeeded somehow, if your mother noticed, if she ever thanked you for trying…?

I think that when your father had his angry episodes, attacking your mother, attacking you, you were scared and naturally tried to fix it, to make your experience safe, or as safe as possible, so that you will survive. A child can not consider surviving without her mother, so you tried to protect her, so that she will make your survival possible.

I wonder (wondering, again) if you tried to… fix your father, and how?

anita