Dear Cali Chica:

What a relief it is to read from you! I was so concerned. It is good to know you are alive and taking time off from work, having had an upper back and neck massage and letting all this sink in.

I was thinking of you yesterday after getting off the computer, on my walk, and it hit me, the extent of your mother/ parents’ cruelty. I thought of the word evil. The lack of empathy, the consistent lack of empathy and the consistent inflicting of pain on their own daughters is almost incredible. From my experience, this is an extreme case of ongoing cruelty on the part of your parents.

The fact that you are a good person is, I believe, a result of that 95%- 5% concept I expressed to you before, it is you overreaching the very distant, very un-empathetic parents. Except that 5% has been generous. I see no empathy at all on the part of your parents.

Save yourself, Cali Chica.

Please do not go back to the old way of (non) living. You will be hearing people tell you things, how you should forgive because they are your parents. You will hear those very common societal messages if you avail yourself to hearing them. Not a good idea.

Adhere to reality, to the truth. Let the dust settle, so to speak, following this earthquake, this upheaval. This here is the hard work.

Your recent posts when you were on vacation, that was the academic work, excellent, yet this, now, is the real work. It is what is necessary.

Post anytime.

anita