Hi GK,

Don’t worry, I know this feeling only too well(!!) I had a boyfriend in Chicago who I was long-distancing with (even though he was a coke addict – long story). I had a breakdown/ breakthrough over Christmas, and messaged him during my breakdown. He blocked me, and never contacted me again – even though he was meant to come visit me in England.

What did I learn from it? I learnt that I was seeing him as an escapism for my life, and losing him was the best thing to happen to me. Too often I have put too much focus on men in my life, instead of building a life that I am happy with on my own. I have learnt to love myself first, and see other people as secondary – whereas before I would love people more than I love myself which is lethal.

I have Tinder at the moment, and there is a guy I have been talking on/ off with. Although sometimes he takes a while to reply… I am trying to not have too much attachment to Tinder because a lot of people see it as something that isn’t really that important “It’s just a Tinder match”. So, I am not putting too much emphasis on that, and also I don’t really want to date at all right now, I am just using it to talk to people.

In terms of your situation. I would say, only put meaning on to real life interactions. Don’t put too much expectation on to internet dates, and take as much as much as much time as you need. Maybe try and have a friendship first/ get to know that person etc. Don’t allow other people’s judgement make you question yourself.

In terms of the 1960s thing, he’s saying that because he sounds like a guy who just likes control over women – his way or the high way. Not  guy that you want, or deserve. Forget about him, and try and make genuine friendships with people 🙂

Also – there’s a song called ‘Och Aye’ by Kiss Me Killer on spotify – it might make you feel better 🙂

Cat