I got burned pretty bad in a similar situation. I had been single for a long time and just craved sex. I happened to meet someone one night, we hit it off and a FWB situation ensued. I eventually realized that I did want more and was saddened when he originally didn’t. He then changed the script and started playing with my feelings to, I suspect, keep me around. To this day, I am confused as to whether he was being real with me or not; we were together for almost two years and I can’t comprehend why someone would toy with someone for that long. The night it ended, he was so cold and unfeeling towards me that it killed my self-esteem and permanently changed my perspective on love itself. I have never been so hurt.

I believe that feelings will eventually be had by one party in this type of situation. After all, sex is the most intimate act two human beings can be engaged in. As someone else commented, we aren’t robots. And, as they also commented, regardless of how he is dismissing the situation, you DID have a relationship with him. It was primarily a sexual one, but a relationship existed. At the end, my guy kept correcting me informing me that we weren’t “seeing each other” and to not tell people as such. It is disrespectful, dehumanizing and just plain cruel to belittle someone’s existence and the shared experience in that way.

It has taken me a year and I am just building myself up again to feeling deserving of something more than just being a body to someone. Some people can handle that; I cannot. I do appreciate reading about other people’s experience with this though as it makes me feel less alone in the universe. My only advice is to not question your worth. You are deserving of better treatment than you wrote about.