Dear RoxySue:

You are welcome and I am glad you are back with an update.

I wrote to you above, Feb 11: “I am impressed with this man’s honesty. He is consistent and clear about his position”-

I was wrong. His statements in isolation, outside the situations and pattern of behavior, read like honest statement. But not in context. Let’s look at the context you described in your post today:

He comes over and “Things were great again and I felt very close to him”, meaning he communicated to you: I love you (not with these words). He knows this is what you “heard” because of past experiences with you. When he said “not to read much into this”, he said it because he believed you already read it.

His dishonesty is to give you a text tor read, so to speak, letting you read it, and then say: don’t read it.

But you already read it because he already gave you the text to read.

You wrote: “So the next time he is planning on texting me it will be to have an adult mature relationship with me or let me go completely meaning no contact”- the problem I see now is that it is not an issue of maturity, on his part, but … honesty.

anita