Hi foofoobunny,

It sounds to me, like it was a co-dependent relationship. That you made him your life and the center of your universe. As women, we tend to have this tendency, and we lose our selves, and expect the man to be our only means of entertainment, support, validation, etc. This can be, like you said very racing to them, no man can live up to these expectations and they will soon bail. Like you said, a man, can’t be happy with you, until you are happy with yourself first, meaning, having your own interests, no drama, having friends, passions, goals, dreams, maybe volunteer work. Only then, when you are engaged in this, you will attract a healthy stable relationship. There is a great book, a best selling book. Has been out for a long time. Updated every year, it’s called “Co-dependent No More” by Melody Beattie. I hope it will help you, as it has helped me and others break free of this pattern.