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It reads to me like your friend is perhaps not as self aware as you so doesn’t realise the impact she is having or just gets busy and forgets from time to time-everyone does it.

I have learnt my lesson the hard way in this in that I have a good friend who ive known for 15 years and I made an effort to remember her birthday and christmas and send her a card and present each time and she never got me one back. I did this a few times as I felt it’s what you DO at those times, but actually felt resentment toward her she never returned the favour. The thing I have now learnt is that presents/cards etc aren’t something this friend buys many of eg only for her family as she is a little short of money and also doesn’t tend to be organised enough to remember birthdays etc so now I don’t do this anymore. I have recognised that we can still be friends without the cards /presents and understand that its just not on her radar and so have released my own expectations of her without ruining our friendship. I have other friends where we always make an effort on birthdays etc.

My advice about the cancelling meeting would either to be to let it slide one time and then if it happens again talk to her honestly about it or just say how you felt when she cancelled you and try and arrange another day. People have things come up in life all the time and she perhaps just forgot and double booked which is easily done.

I hope all goes well for you! 🙂