Dear joanna:

Maybe I felt offended for a very short moment, maybe. I am not offended now.  Regarding me being “harsh about this”- why would I be harsh when being harsh hurts you. I can be honest without being harsh. The people who have been harsh with you so far in your life, none of it was necessary, none that I can imagine, was necessary.

Yes, I used to talk about my mother to anyone who’d listen. Problem  is I didn’t believe what I was saying, similar to you: some times you believe that your mother mistreats you and at other times you believe that she is not, that she is only responding to a faulty person, the way anyone will respond to a faulty person. Isn’t it so?

anita