Dear Mike,

I am glad you opened up to the TinyBuddha forum.

Your self-realisation itself is already a huge step forward, and I’m glad you’re trying to find a way out of your self-comparison.

If you were to ask me, I feel that the condition is perfectionism. You set unrealistically high expectations of yourself – and that, I’m guilty of it too. I used to do it all the time.

But I’ve become better at controlling the temptation to judge myself, after all, aren’t we all our worst critics?

I’m practising self-love and self-compassion more, as well as knowing that we are all human. We all make mistakes. We can’t afford to be perfect because as cheesy as it sounds, nobody is perfect.

Again, Mike, don’t be harsh on yourself because you’ve realised that you self-compare. Instead, try to understand that we all have our strengths and limitations. Sometimes, the further you push, the further you get. Be patient with yourself, and tell me about your thoughts.

Regards,

Junna