1. When we worked together I was confident he liked me and we could not be together but that it was an option for the future. Since I moved I feel my mind goes crazy when I don’t hear from him. After I left he said he liked having me as a friend but that we couldn’t be together. This led to the jealousy of the wife and even the children, because he had originally said he was unhappy. When i was younger I religiously read Its Called a Breakup because it’s Broken and one quote was something like, assume that he’s dating someone else and she’s a supermodel. Then start dealing with it. So I am trying to deal with what actually might be true. He is working on his marriage, or having other affairs, or both. It’s easier than what I was doing before, picturing him pursuing every possible attractive girl at the company and being happier. Or even just being happier at home which I don’t believe he really will be. But at the same time, that is accepting that I was just the one girl in that time period that showed him the most attention and that he felt he had a chance with. I don’t want him to continue to call me out of obligation and he probably will stop, as I don’t think he really cares about being just friends with a female who no longer works with him.

For 2 I don’t believe my interactions with him were as extreme. The last time I did not hear from him for a while I just asked what his feelings were, if they changed, and if he did not want to see me anymore. He was not really answering so I just kept asking. The next day he apologized and said nothing changed but that he thought cutting back was better. A few times we worked together he would get upset that I didn’t want more and there would be a few days of silent treatment or telling the other we needed a break. These things are very emotional for me and I often cry and become very anxious. With others I have yelled and thrown a cell phone when I found out they were talking to other women (unsurprisingly) but I don’t feel the need to be that way now.

• This reply was modified 6 years, 9 months ago by Talia.