Why cant i let go, why cant i forget, why cant i forgive?

We can’t let go when we attach our sense of self with our memories and emotions. Instead of feeling our emotions we become our emotions. To let go would then be letting go of our sense of self which feels like dying and so we grasp and cling and hold onto our pain. We also hold onto our pain because a subconscious part of ourselves hopes that as long as we hurt we are hurting the one that hurt us.  We do not forgive because we do not understand forgiveness.

We suffer because a part of us wants to suffer.