Dear Missxm:

There is one very important thing you must do, I believe, so to not repeat the behavior you want to stop, and that is, to not accept it from others yourself. If in your relationship with your mother, or your father, either one of them still says mean-things-they-don’t-mean (they do!), you must not be available to hear or read what they say. You must not be there to hear it.

It is not about hearing the mean things they say and trying to not be affected by it. It is about not hearing those things at all, and doing whatever it takes to not be exposed yourself to such.

anita