Dear joanna:

I am trying to understand your practical situation, hence my inquiry.

Did I understand correctly: no point in renting, only buying. To buy a place, you and your mother will be connected financially. Wherever you live, therefore, she will either live with you, or very close to you?

You wrote: “in current situation: he (Tom) wouldn’t be able to come by for an hour after work to have sex, so yes that’s a tough decision for me, a lot to lose”-

Does he regularly or repeatedly come by to your place after work for an hour of sex (I know only of the one time recently).

And to make sure I understand, you believe that you will have “a lot to lose” if he doesn’t visit you for sex after work for an hour or so?

* Back in about fifteen hours.

anita