Dear Anita,

Yes, I do have good relations with family and friends. But I’m unable to spend a lot of time with them as I’m always busy with my studies. My best friend is pursuing her engineering so she stays busy too and we don’t meet up regularly. Texting was never our thing so that doesn’t work well. My other friends are busy with their lives as well, just like how I am. Everything pretty much revolves around my studies in my life and that’s what makes it boring.

Yes, sometimes I feel the absence of having a man in my life. The worst part is that when anyone tries to enter my life I don’t entertain it. This is where the “impossibly high standards” come in. I don’t judge people by their looks or other exterior aspects and those aren’t the standards that aren’t being met. It’s all just shallow men talking shallow things and that I find irritating.

As you said, being a selectively-associates-with-men girl is hard for me because now most of the men around me are intimidated by me and that’s exactly the kind of men I don’t want to be around. And I don’t want to find other men to associate with because I fear that they will again think I’m looking to be more than friends and even though I tell them repeatedly that I’m not, they will insist and it all takes an ugly turn (its happened before a couple of times).

The problem, I think is, I’m not open to trusting anyone new but sometimes I get envious of the people who are. And this in some unexplainable way is affecting my self confidence and making me more critical about some factors of myself. I know it is all very weird so thanks for taking the time to reply to it 🙂