Hi anon11,

I think, I would go on the vacation by yourself and have a great time. The way, I see it, you would have a better time Going by yourself, than with him, as he has clearly indicated he is not ready to pursue anything further at this time. I think it you go on this vacation with him, you would not enjoy it, as you would be too focused on him, pleasing him, wondering what he is thinking, analysing, focusing only on him, and not all the beautiful sights and scenery this country has to offer. You may develop expectations of seeing this trip of a way of reconciliation, or a way of getting back together, and if this does not happen, or your expectations are not met, you would become resentful or even more hurt and heartbroken then you already are. I think going on this trip with him, would not be a good idea. I do not believe two people who just got out of a relationship (romantic) can just be “friends” it doesn’t work unfortunately. Give him the space he needs. Who knows, maybe you will meet a fantastic guy on this trip and forget all about your ex. ☺x