Dear Leocube:

Thank you for your post on this old, old thread of mine.

#31: “I’ve been saying ‘I love you’ for 75 years but only now when I’m on my death bed do I truly understand what it means”- I wonder, if I was his wife, if I would bother asking him what it meant to him during those 75 years and what it means now.

Better have asked early on: what do you mean when you say “I love you”?

With so many possible meaning, better indeed ask the one saying these words: what do you mean by these words? I would ask because if I didn’t, I wouldn’t know.

Dear Airene:

Thank you for your post. I particularly like # 45: “I want you to be safe, happy, and at peace”- very much so.

# 44, “I need to hear you say to me “I love you” and mean it, so I tell you I love you.” – is that dishonestly manipulative in your mind? What if the person says I love you for that purpose repeatedly, often, how would you react?

anita