Hi Eliana
Hi Anita
I appreciate your feedback. I absolutely agree with you on the fact that he is pretty much controlling our relationship. Although as i mentioned we have not made it official with one another…him joking around that I will be his “future wife” etc makes me question if he takes being with me seriously. He doesn’t inquire too much into things that I want in life too much but being that I am intimidated to a degree i can’t say it is his fault because I don’t feel comfortable letting myself be vulnerable and truly open up. It’s really hard to decipher things for myself. He is a caring person I know if I needed him I could call him an when i have he has always been supportive for example:if i need a ride & car needs work he is the type to find me a mechanic and pay if need it no questions asked, if I’m hungry, need money. I think about a future with him because we have been involved this long but I do get fearful. Mainly because Iam not 100% happy with my life & secure within.I feel like I need to pull back completely an allow myself to grow and find happiness individually to find true happiness collectively. But i don’t really know how to tell him that. He texts/calls me everyday & checks on me but I don’t want to invest energy into pouring out thesefeelings and allow him to have a space of even more control so what do you suggest.? Do i just text him less and less until he gets the signal or what?