Dear joanna:

I will ask in a different way: throughout your adult life, you never lived in a place where your mother didn’t live when she wanted to, that is, you never rented your own apartment to which she didn’t have a key to. You never rented a room in someone else’s house, to which she didn’t have a key to. You never lived in students’ housing, in a place with roommates, to which she didn’t have a key to?

In other words, wherever you lived, she had a key to the place, correct?

anita