May,

You labelled your post as “Dying Relationship.”  This is telling in how you think of what is going on.

You want to fix your relationship and communication.  Does your boyfriend?  It is hard to do that if he does not think it is a problem or that he does not want to make it better.

You two might want to check out Marshall Rosenburg’s Non-Violent Communication process.  It is a simple process which helps in communication.

You might want to read what the Tiny Buddha website has to offer as well…

Sounds True One

Mark