Hi Kathleen,

Your parents don’t talk to you, you are a student, you work full time to support yourself and you volunteer (add gardening on top of that??). It’s like you’re feeling guilty for wanting to have a relationship because you keep writing that you are happy within yourself. You are so busy, it’s like you’re doing penance for having to support yourself, if that makes sense.

I say simplify your life, if possible.

No, it is not wrong to fall for someone ten years your senior. I did at nineteen. It didn’t work out because the guy felt more weird about it than I did at the time. (Ten years later he married someone my age who looked eerily like me, so that’s how he finally worked THAT out! LOL).

You are bisexual. Your parents couldn’t deal with it. Now you find a person you like. I think you are way overthinking it because subconsciously you don’t want to disappoint your disappointing parents (again)!

I say “Go for it!” It may not work out, but at least you tried.

Inky