Dear Jezz:

“to disappear and move into a place where he does not know” reads like a good enough idea, to me, whatever it takes to save yourself (and your children) from the possibility of living together- again- with this man.

What you need and what your children need (I have no doubt about this), is a safe place, a place you can all call home. Be it a small place, be it anywhere, but see to it that there are no fights in there, no aggression of any kind, physical or verbal, no raised voices.

What better for your children than a comfortable mother, one who is at peace?

I am sure you will miss him, and long for love, but first safety from aggression, away from the distress involved in being used and abused. Away first, and later, later .. true love.

Post again, anytime.

anita