Dear beginner25:

You wrote earlier: “I want to give up on him now.. I don’t want to wait for him… I want it to go away now. I really want to… I have no business loving someone who already told me he doesn’t love me…I try to convince myself that he is not good for me”-

You are trying to convince yourself because part of you is arguing with yourself, there is an internal argument, a fight of sorts. You feel strongly about him and a part of you says something like: you shouldn’t feel this about him! You shouldn’t be thinking about him! Stop it!

You tried your hardest to give up on him, to not wait for him, to not love him, and you failed. So give up trying.

If the internal argument stops, if you stop the fighting inside of you, you will feel much better. Let yourself think about him, let yourself feel whatever you feel. Accept the situation as it is.

anita