Dear Tom:

I don’t know what you should do now. If she contacts you then you will have another opportunity to get to know her better and to make it possible for her to get to know you better. If you get that opportunity, I hope you do just that, have a serious conversation.

It is almost like you presented yourself to the woman and then you are waiting for her verdict. Based on an initial presentation, like in a job interview. Waiting for an answer. The recent date, during the date itself, you were waiting for the result of the initial interview, reads to me.

It needs to be, the dating needs to be a series of ongoing efforts to get to know each other, not an initial presentation of yourself and then the waiting for her verdict.

What to do now? Maybe you can suggest to her a specific thing to do if you get together, that is, instead of generally asking (again, I suppose) when she is available, you can ask her to go to a particular movie, or to have a meal with you.

anita