Dear Rohail Bukhari:

In your two previous threads of 2016 you did not share anything about your past, I believe. Here you do share for the first time. You shared that you didn’t grow up popular, had no friends, that when you shared your ideas with people, “no one really cared and treated me like I wasn’t important enough. I feel like drowning”-

Reads to me that this childhood experience of not being important, of your ideas not worthy of consideration and respect, has been a very painful experience that you keep experiencing.

You asked: “how can I truly get past my perfectionism?”- my answer is: share here, share your ideas, post after post, over time, and I will consider your ideas respectfully. I will treat your ideas as important enough to be considered, and you, as important enough to listen to attentively and respectfully.

I wrote that this is my answer, that is, it is what I can do for you. Not that it will solve your problem, but this is what I can do for you. The more such experiences you have in your life, the better it will be for you.

You need a different treatment from people than the treatment you received as a child and to relax into new, better experiences.

anita