Anita, I would rather not go into why I told him that. Trust me, I offered, because I thought I was causing problems in his life. I guess subconscienly, I knew I needed to end the relationship, but I became addicted to the attention & company he provided me. Remember, I was damaged goods when he started reaching out to me over a year ago. My other boyfriend of 14 years abandonded me when my mom passed away, and didn’t even attend the memorial service with me. He coldly left me, and wouldn’t be with me when I needed comfort the most, so I was alone, and this other guy started calling me out of the blue, because he said he felt bad about what my boyfriend had done to me. One thing led to another, and his frequent calls became daily calls, multiple times a day. His phone calls started comforting me a great deal while I was going thru the pain of not only losing my mom, but the relationship with my boyfriend, who he knows. After about a year or so of phone calls, we started meeting up. We were extremely close friends, but he had a lot going on in his life with his wife, who is highly addicted to drugs. He left her, and was living on his own with his daughters. He kept feeling sorry for his wife, however, and would always visit her, and was probably sleeping with her too. Who knows. All I know is, I was damaged, depressed & abandoned, and wasn’t exactly in my right mind when I got involved. We were both starved for affection, and we became lovers/friends. The relationship lasted a whole year with him calling me “honey” and “my love.” I am still extremely hurt, and probably won’t ever get over it, but I must move on.