But see I’m not saying my mother didn’t hear him out about his childhood. That’s an issue I would have to ask. But i will say at 50 plus years later that is still NO excuse. Also my mother became part of the picture in helping my grandma because my other family members stopped coming around to check on her ( they don’t want to be around him) and simply because my dad is pure LAZY. His obsession with tv and movies has only continued he does feed her but bathing her changing her and all necessary essentials my mom is the consistent one on the matter.Otherwise he can’t do it alone. He claims he love his mom that’s all he has etc but I don’t trust him. I feel like he’s doing it because he has no other choice to now. But that is interesting you said that i never looked at it that way but i highly doubt he resents her for that because he asks for her help. He acts helpless so she can do everything.When i lived there with my grandmother(after he put me out) it took him months to visit her which is why he didnt even know i was there and when he finally did it was because of turmoil at home and he had no where to go so that just let’s you know how he is. He is all for self.

As for me i really am just confused. I been on a emotional rollercoaster. I care about the man I’m involved with he treats me good respects me etc but he has alot going on in his life. And honestly I question what TRUE Love is because I’ve never had it from the male figure I needed it from. All the guys I have been with have hurt me so I’m apprehensive scared to commit to something that could turn out for the worse. My feelings are up and down deep… down I know that he loves me an cares for me but im harboring  fear of rejection and lack of trust insecurity an those things make me want to pull away. Make me question his love even when it’s unlike the way I’ve been treated before(in a good way). I recently just stopped responding to him yesterday just to clear my head and figure out what I want and he has been texting me throughout the whole day concerned if I’m alright even at 4 in the morning saying he hasnt heard from me etc so I know that he cares about me l… just need to figure out what I want and deal with my own issues first I think.