Dear Bella:

When things get tough, most people go the easier route. It was easier for him to leave as he did. Did he love you before he left- I suppose he did.

I don’t know if he indeed has a girlfriend or he just said he did so to discourage you from calling him, but if he does, I don’t think he loves her or will love her more than he loved you.

Notice this: he left everything to his ex wife, you wrote. Probably not because he loved her, but  because it was easier for him to leave it all to her.

I suppose what motivates him more than love is comfort, what is easier.

anita