Hi Anita,

You do have such words of wisdom…

With your words, what can you recommend for me to start healing.  Even though I have not been in touch with him, it is not easy.  Since he told me he has a girlfriend, of course I do the usual and wonder as to how much fun they are having & how in Love they are remembering the way he was with me in the beginning of our relationship, and then thinking …are they doing the same?

I seem to look at my phone to often to see if he may have left a message & then turn it off only to turn it on again.  I even made the mistake of looking at our cell phone bill to see where he is calling…(Which wouldn’t make a difference, because I wouldn’t call the #’s to find out because I wouldn’t want him to have that pleasure of knowing I cared even though I do…Right now I know I should go out and do some things but I am unable to drive due to a temporary disability.  It is going to be 4 months more, or so until I should drive again.  Let alone go out and try to socialize.  So, I am stuck at home with nothing to do but stress myself out alone.  When were together it was usually just the two of us because he always worked late & also said I was his best friend and he didn’t want to go anywhere without me.  So we did most everything with just one another.  So, now I am paying the price, alone/sick and stressed.

Do you have any suggestions how to stop my mind from thinking about things that hurt, but really don’t matter…

Thank You~