Dear Ladybug:

You promised to be by his side and you are keeping your promise. Therefore, “if he does not improve or step up and be the man we both need him to be then I will walk away and know I have given my all”- may it be a promise you make to yourself, to walk away if he doesn’t step up and be the man you both need him to be.

You wrote, “he is still working on himself”- and I still don’t know that he does, or how it is that he is working on himself. I know he is working on his career, but how otherwise, I don’t know that he is.

The term identity crisis that you used, (or plural, identity crises), I wonder about  it. It is not that he had a solid identity before(as an adult)  and now he is questioning that identity. So I don’t know about this term used here. I think that his struggles, his challenges have been  ongoing and a lot is ahead of him, if he is to take on healing.

anita