Dear noname:

I am not tired of responding to you, not at all. Regarding your hope that I validate your worth as a person by telling you good things about yourself- I would love to do that and I would if it wasn’t as ineffective as I believe it is. I don’t do it not because it is not my job (“I know that’s my job”, you wrote), but because it is not possible for me to accomplish.

You wrote that it is your job, not completely true. You will need another person’s help. Can’t do it without. It was your parents’ job and they failed you. And now it is within a healing relationship with another person that you can believe a different message, that you are worthy and lovable.

Our communication here is not enough to be that healing relationship that you need. I will try and make my point by telling you what I think about your worth, based on my beliefs and my communication with you. I believe that you are very worthy and very lovable. I am sure of it. You were born worthy and lovable and gladly, for me, you didn’t become so far a person who is no longer worthy or lovable. You didn’t give up, you didn’t lose empathy for others. You are pursuing a helping profession. You are trying really hard. You are a good man. I appreciate not only the worthy, lovable baby and young boy that you were, but the man you are.

Now you tell me what any of this means to you at the moment, will you?

anita