Dear Cat:

Rest best you can, be gentle with yourself. When you notice an unkind thought going through you (ex., you are not worth a reply), correct the thought. You are worth a reply, here I am replying to you right now.

I know the desire for Toby to reply to you is stronger than the desire that I do, but desire aside, really, him not replying to you, is not an indication of your worth. I suggested to you to keep communication with him simple. From what I understand, simple, short messages are or were more likely to be followed by him replying to you.

Living a better life is about doing what is more likely to benefit you, and not doing what is less likely to benefit you. When you do learn about a person, for example, about Toby, and you like him, want more of a connection, you communicate with him in a way that will promote the chances of more connection.

I will soon be away from the computer for about eighteen hours. Be good to yourself and post anytime.

anita