Hi Dario,

This may not be the advice you’re looking for but I’ll give it to you anyway. Yes, I believe you’re misreading him. The reason he gets defensive may be because whenever he helps you (as friends often do for each other) you misread his intentions, thinking he may want more, and he picks up on this. Not everyone who loves being around you and who cares about you and wants to help you also wants to be romantically involved with you. He has told you more than once that he doesn’t. Believe him. Respect his decision. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that you know what he wants better than he does.

You ask: How can I be in love with somebody after two years of breaking up? Maybe because you still hold on to the hope that he will one day love you back. Once you accept that it is not going to happen, I believe you will begin to get over him and move on.

Sorry, Dario. You seem like a nice person. The right guy for you is out there. You’ll find him.

B