Hi Dorothee,

Although being with him made me unhappy, part of me still decided to stay because of my fear of being alone.

I understand this thinking completely. When you find yourself lonely and missing him, don’t forget all the things about this relationship that made you unhappy. In fact, write them down now so that you can read them when you feel sad, weak, and tempted to contact him. Staying silent to avoid arguments and constantly apologizing to him — sounds to me like you were walking on eggshells while you were with this guy. That’s no way to live. You don’t have to do that anymore. Time to focus on yourself now. Counselling is really good idea, and meditation may help with the anxiety. Have you tried it?

B