Anne; Thanks for your support, i have to remind myself to be firm in not letting him use his daughter to weasel his way back into control. He has tried everything from crying about her being raised with us separately, to calling single parenting “disgusting”. As delusional as he is, he attests that she will be better in a home with constant abuse between the parents rather than being raised by healthy single parents. I just wonder how to avoid him in this coparenting because our daughter is two years old and has never even spent a half day with him alone. It was to the extent that even if I work a saturday and he is home, i will have to arrange babysitting. How the hell can he say that i should let her be in his custody? he smokes around her, has random guys always “hanging out” and is a known physical abuser. The very thought of her being in his care disgusts me. That is  the only reason i have entertained him since i moved out is to supervise his time spent with her. Even then he can only focus on her 30 minutes or less. UGHHHHHHHHH i hate that i procreated with such an individual but he had his mask on so well!!! He harassed me so much the other day because i would not let her have him that we had to call the police to remove him!! I cant wait until he just lets us go and stops trying to use her as manipulation to get money from me.