Thanks Anita, we are far apart. She is in Arizona. I see her maybe 5 times a year and talk at least once a week. She is my brothers wife so I always feel it is my job as a sister to keep everything cordial. I cannot just quit my job as that would hurt my brother. But I feel like I need to learn how to deal with people like her in my life because it happens. I feel so weak sometimes with no boundaries and I am such a people pleaser. I dont knot how to stop. Yes just comes out of my mouth. She is coming tonight and I feel very anxious because I want to face this challenge and ace it.