Thanks Anita, we are far apart. She is in Arizona. I see her maybe 5 times a year and talk at least once a week. She is my brothers wife so I always feel it is my job as a sister to keep everything cordial. I cannot just quit my job as that would hurt my brother. But I feel like I need to learn how to deal with people like her in my life because it happens. I feel so weak sometimes with no boundaries and I am such a people pleaser. I dont knot how to stop. Yes just comes out of my mouth. She is coming tonight and I feel very anxious because I want to face this challenge and ace it.

She is very condescending. So I might ask how big of a cake would you like me to order? And she would reply sarcastically “well there is going to be 30 people so enogh for 30 people” also, she never says thank you for the things I do that are technically not my responsibility at all.  She really doesn’t act like she cares about me at all. But yet calls and asks for things when she needs them. I just feel like she plays on my kindness and it irritates me so bad because I try to treat her like family and she never allows it. She isn’t welcoming or grateful or friendly. She is all about her but yet wants me to go with her places, and help with things but when I’m there she acts like she could careless if I’m there. It all confuses me.

I believe it will hurt him because he chose me as the God Mother of his child. He trusted me with that title. But none of this comes from him. They have poor communication and I don’t even know if he knows about these things she does. But it is very difficult for me to tell him because he is very touchy about her. As you put it, no most people don’t do that but alot of people out here are insensitive and expect more than they give and I don’t know how to deal with it. In the even I cannot just walk away, how do you say I deal with such an issue? I will be around her for 5 days. I want to enjoy myself regardless what others are doing.