Dear Helen:

I understand that you feel hurt and angry and I hope you feel better soon.

You wrote about him back at the end of June: “He has been ambiguous from the beginning”. I suppose he is no longer ambiguous, so that gives you a better opportunity to close your door on this relationship.

You wrote here: “He told me that… he is dating someone else who doesn’t want an open relationship”- that makes sense when putting it together with what you shared earlier in June, that he offered you “to see other guys on dating apps” and that from what you understood, “he was in an open relationship at the end of his last relationship but wasn’t a good experience”.

Reads to me that he didn’t give up on the idea of an open relationship, maybe considered one again this time around but his current girlfriend didn’t agree to it, so he didn’t offer it to you.

I hope you post again and that the hurt weakens and weakens.

anita