Hi Anita,

I have taken some time to think about what you said.

I have realised that I am not really happy with my life at the moment. My job has become mundane and requires little effort. It doesn’t challenge or inspire me. I don’t have much of a social life as all of my friends are in relationships and I don’t see them often. I don’t see my family too often as they are all busy with their own lives and partners.

Because of this, I put so much pressure on every relationship I enter, as it becomes my favourite part of my life if it’s a good one, or a reassuring distraction if it is simply ok. I then become anxious that I’m going to lose the relationship and be left alone to realise that I’m not happy.

I need to try and enjoy my life outside of a relationship and fill it with things that I cherish instead of simply focusing on the person I am dating and hoping that somehow they will fix all my problems and make me happy.