Dear Cali Chica:

Thank you. It’s been a long, long time, years, since I read books, articles online or elsewhere on psychology and psychotherapy, child development and so on. I read what I read, a whole lot,  years ago. In my process I learn from the inside out, from the beginning (using a “beginner’s mind”), using the basics, the building blocks and taking it from there.

The academic understanding published as I know it is an outside-in type of information, that is, the researcher/ professional is studying human psychology and behavior as that of a different species, as if the one studying is of a different species, and so, is removed from the one being studied.

The last lines of what you posted: “if the child copes by dissociating, it makes it easier to continue daily life with the parent than if they were fully aware of the traumatic past experiences”- with my beginner’s  mind I am correcting this sentence: if the child copes by dissociating, it makes it possible to survive daily life with the parent. If they were fully aware of the often ongoing traumatic experience of their childhood, they would not survive it.

anita