Dear Ladybug:

“I’ve started asking more of what I want and making it clear when I’m disappointed, I do not pressure him or nag… I make it known what standard I’m willing to accept from him… By being more stern and calmly vocal about how I feel regarding certain things it prevents me from building up unnecessary resentment and allows him the chance to put in the effort I deserve”- excellent. I can’t think of better thinking and behaving on your part, in this relationship and any relationship. I am impressed.

And yet I have a nagging voice in my head, a concern perhaps: what if Ladybug, this logical, sensible, mature, wise young woman is so attached to this man, so deeply emotionally attached to him, that she will stay with him no matter what, no matter how, for as long as he will have her in his life?

anita