anita, I am so very sorry for causing these feelings to come out, that was certainly not the intent.  Our brain can really mess with us at time. It tries to anticipate a behavior, or some words that are about to come and could hurt you.  In a sense, I guess it’s a protective mechanism, but it doesn’t always end up helping.  As in your case.

My words were genuine and I truly meant what I wrote.  I hope you can be over the bad feelings you experienced.

In relation to your hypothetical scenario.  If he were to say something of the sort, I would be far from satisfied.  I might have close to a nuclear reaction, actually.  After all the parading of the girls, for the past 2 years, for him to come to me and utter such words (which would never happen, you know that) would send me in a state of complete rage.  There would be a lot of screaming, cursing, possibly crying (again, in anger, not sadness).

I think you are right, however, regarding his impulsivity.  The current girl is, in his words, a carbon copy of himself: lazy, care-free, they both smoke (and have been desperately wanting to quit) and a few other similar personality traits.  I believe there’s a good chance that she might be the lucky one.  Over the past 7 days, I’ve heard a few things that raised red flags for me, but that is not something for me to worry about.  In addition, I feel like voicing these concerns might be taken as me being jealous, and nothing else, so I stay quiet.